Local vet fires back on Facebook after being told: ‘have some respect’

When Rebecca Hayes came out to her car on Monday after shopping at the Coddle Creek Harris Teeter, she discovered a note criticizing her for parking in a spot reserved for veterans.

“This parking is for Veterans, lady,” it began. “Learn to read and have some respect.”

Rebecca Hayes,

Hayes, a Concord resident, is in fact a veteran of the U.S. Navy.

In response, she turned to social media.

She shared a captioned photo of the note on Facebook, beginning it by saying that though she doesn’t normally use the spots reserved for veterans, Monday was a hot, busy day, and the spots were available.

She continued:

“I’m sorry that you can’t see my eight years of service in the United States Navy. I’m sorry that your narrow misogynistic world view can’t conceive of the fact that there are female Veterans. I’m sorry that I have to explain myself to people like you. Mostly, I’m sorry that we didn’t get a chance to have this conversation face to face, and that you didn’t have the integrity and intestinal fortitude to identify yourself, qualities the military emphasizes.”

She concluded by asking the author of the note, “I served, did you?”b07835aeeaf52d22d77129098a2a8066

According to a report by WBTV, Hayes believes the note was left because she is a woman and didn’t fit the typical veteran stereotype in her business-casual clothes.

Hayes told WBTV that her husband, a veteran of the U.S. Army, has parked in a veteran parking spot before. However, the most feedback he has received is a “thank you for your service.”

“Veterans come in all shapes, sizes, genders and colors,” Hayes said in a phone interview with WBTV.

Read more here: http://www.charlotteobserver.com/news/local/article83641682.html#storylink=cpy

Lisa Lampanelli and Celebrity Weight Loss

Celebrity weight loss is constantly at the forefront of media. Newest on the list of celebrity members of the “fit club”  is stand up comedian Lisa Lampanelli.

A Yahoo! Inc article proclaims

Though she’s happy at her current size, after a radical weight loss (formerly weighing 248 pounds), Lampanelli doesn’t fancy the word ‘beautiful in her vocabulary. She does know that stacking herself next to others isn’t productive and being self-assured is a personal thing.


Lampanelli, who had gastric bypass surgery in 2012, has lost over 100 pounds. This was a result of a 3 decade long battle with emotional eating

I started emotionally eating and using food as medication, just like other people use alcohol or drugs or pot or shopping or anything else. I gai

ned weight, and that started a 32-year struggle with weight and exercise and body image problems. I didn’t have a handle on it, at all. – Lampanelli

Celebrity weight and size is often exaggerated or lied about. Beauty Redefined published an article approximately 24 months ago about celebrity weights and the lies told to to the media. “The average model is 5’11” and 117 lbs (which is considered severely underweight, even according to the BMI),” the article states. The article goes on to discuss the accuracy of female claims in their weight loss with regard to the media. For example, when Jennifer Hudson claimed to have lost 50 pounds (or two dress sizes) from her 140 lb frame, she would have been 90 pounds, a rather unrealistic weight, even for hollywood.

Stereotypes and weight discrimination in Hollywood seem to fuel these types of discussions, as celebrities find “new lives” with their new bodies. This occurs most often with women rather than men. The simple answer is that while men are typically rated and assessed based on their merits, women have to account for their merits and their attractiveness. Just look at Bruce Jenner’s recent transformation in which it took media outlets less than one hour to begin criticizing her body. As Bruce, Jenner was a 1976 Olympic athlete with accolades to count. He was called an “American Hero” during our Cold War with the Soviet Union. As Caitlyn, media outlets were discussing her breasts and figure.

LA2-vx06-konsthallen-skulpturWomen face an exorbitant amount of discrimination, in the workplace in general. Our society places a huge emphasis on thinness and attractiveness on women, which tends to make its way into the workforce. This is because women, and especially their attractiveness, are valued based on their appearance. Men, on the other hand are thought of as being attractive based on appearance, personality, occupational success, and intelligence (Haskins & Ransford, 1999). The reason this is relevant is that physical appearance is often cited as a hiring factor (Frieze, Olson, & Good 1990). Even without the workplace setting, women’s weight plays a much more impactful role than males in their every day lives. For example, obese undergraduate women have been found to date less than obese males of the same age. Obese women are married less often than non-obese women, while these have little to no effect on males. And, men rated obese women as being less attractive than those with STDs, physical disabilities, or severe mental illness (Roehling, 2012).

This is why being an overweight woman may be more limiting than being an overweight male in the workplace (Haskins & Ransford, 1999). Obese and overweight women are less likely to be selected and will receive lower starting salaries than those with lower body weights (Obrien, et. al., 2013). Sixteen percent of hiring managers would not consider hiring an obese woman at all (Kristen, 2002). In Roehling’s study (1999), where he identified multiple phases of employment events in which the overweight were discriminated against, also identified one very eye-opening factor. In some cases, men were either unaffected or moderately affected by weight stigmas. The relationship between weight and discrimination was much more prevalent in women. Moreover, women are sixteen times more likely to experience weight discrimination than men are (Roehling et. al, 2007).

Weight can also contribute to the glass ceiling effect in women, as they look for promotions and higher salaries after selection (Henlon & Roehling, 2009). This gender and weight interaction was found to be limiting in the case of Donoghue v. County of Orange, in which a newly appointed Deputy Sheriff Donoghue was required to do more cardiovascular exercises and weight training than other trainees due to her size (McEvoy, 1992). What was even more unsettling was that there were males in the same training class who had been categorized as overweight, but were not required to do these extra exercises. They were also not spoken to as harshly as Sheriff Donoghue. The treatment ultimately prevented Donoghue from being promoted and earning more. Empirically, this is also supported Haskins and Ransford (1999). The results of this study indicated that female weight did significantly affect salary, especially in certain occupations within a specific industry. The study also indicated that overweight women in entry level and managerial positions earned significantly less than non-overweight women.

Gender and Weight also interact to create major barriers throughout the work environment, in general. Compared with female participants in a study on stereotypes, male participants wanted to work with obese female targets significantly less than if those roles were reversed (Grant & Mizzi, 2014). The study by Grant and Mizzi focused on stereotypes of overweight female employees. A significant relationship between obesity and negative stereotypes was found, regardless of job type. This had a significant effect on employability ratings, as well, which leads employees to be less desirable. Although, this is in direct contradiction with Haskins and Ransford (1999), who did see certain occupations affect overweight females more directly. The caveat not previously discussed is that those occupations were male-dominated and females in those industries were not valued as much based on their job skills, but on their appearance. The same can be said of a female dominated industry, the airline industry, where women have been historically discriminated against due to their size, regardless of actual size and weight requirements (Lynch, 1996).



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Henlon, A. and Roehling, M.; Weight discrimination could contribute to the glass ceiling effect             for women, study finds. (2009, April 7). MSU Today Retrieved October 30, 2014.

Kristen, E. (2002). Addressing the Problem of Weight Discrimination in Employment.             California Law Review, 90(1), 57.

Lynch, D. a. (1996). The heavy issue: weight-based discrimination in the airline industry. Journal  Of Air Law & Commerce, 62203-242.

McEvoy, S. A. (1992). Fat Chance: Employment Discrimination Against the Overweight. Labor             Law Journal, 43(1), 3-14.

Roehling, M. V. (1999). Weight-Based Discrimination In Employment: Psychological and Legal             Aspects. Personnel Psychology, 52(4), 969-1016.

Roehling, M. V. (2002). Weight Discrimination in the American Workplace: Ethical Issues and             Analysis. Journal Of Business Ethics, 40(2), 177-189.

Roehling, M. V., Roehling, P. V., & Pichler, S. (2007). The Relationship between Body Weight             and Perceived Weight-Related Employment Discrimination: The Role of Sex and Race.             Journal Of Vocational Behavior, 71(2), 300-318.

Roehling, M. V., Roehling, P. V., & Odland, L. M. (2008). Investigating the Validity of             Stereotypes About Overweight Employees: The Relationship Between Body Weight and             Normal Personality Traits. Group & Organization Management, 33(4), 392-424.

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Linda Bacon Says You Can Be Healthy at Every Size

Linda Bacon, PhD

Health at Every Size is not just a book by PhD and author, Linda Bacon. It’s a medical and dietary movement across America. With three major components, Self-Acceptance, Normalized Eating, and Physical Activity, it encourages a healthy lifestyle with less emphasis on body shape and size. Behind the movement is Linda Bacon, who authored the book, Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth about Your Weight (review coming soon!).

Linda Bacon earned her doctorate in physiology, specializing in weight regulation, from the University of California, Davis. She also holds graduate degrees in psychology, specializing in eating disorders and body image, and kinesiology, specializing in exercise metabolism, and has professional experience as a professor, researcher, psychotherapist, exercise physiologist, and consultant.

The Health at Every Size movement is sweeping the nation

Bacon is a nutrition professor in the Biology Department at City College of San Francisco and serves as an associate nutritionist at the University of California, Davis. She’s also an active private consultant, advising health care professionals and institutions on strategies for implementing Health at Every Size.

If you want to read more about the HAES movement, check out the science in this journal article: Weight Science: Examining the Evidence for a Paradigm Shift.  If you’re less of an academic, look into the HAES Manifesto. And of course, there’s always Health at Every Size. In the meantime, you can read about her book and her views on nutrition, below:

Bold Magazine: First thing’s first: What is Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth about Your Weight about? 

Linda Bacon: Health at Every Size (Bold Note: Health at Every Size is often noted as HAES) is about accepting yourself and your desires – and making choices that make you feel good – as a pathway to supporting good health.  It’s very different from the old school thought which supports people in pursuing weight loss or weight management to try to support or improve health. Instead, HAES honors our bodies, regardless of what they weigh, and trusts that if you truly check in with your body and what makes you feel good, your body will support you in developing good health habits, and settling into a weight that is best for you.

BM: What is the goal of the book? 

LB: The goal of the book is to help people make that transition to self-acceptance and nourishing themselves.  And to arm them with the information about why this is an effective and valuable path. It also clarifies why the pursuit of weight loss is so counterproductive to its goal.

BM: We’ve noticed a HAES movement has begun. Was that your doing? 

LB: Yes, the HAES movement is certainly rocking right now.  Check out the HAES Community Resources if you want some evidence. The HAES movement has a long history which pre-dates me.

BM: So, how did it come about? 

LB: I suppose it came about because many people, like me, grew tired of diets, tired of feeling like failures, tired of being told there was something wrong with them, and tired of being scared of food. Starting from the positive – self-love and self-acceptance and that my body is inherently good – made so much more sense. And it matched my experience.  I had tried hard as a dieter, yet my success was only temporary, time and again.  It really was quite freeing to recognize that it wasn’t my fault – the diet was the problem, not me. And I could get what I wanted by giving up the fight. So HAES proved to be quite a lifeline, for me, as it continues to be for others.

One of the best ways to see the strength of the HAES movement right now is to check out the HAES professionals’ organization, the Association for Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH). It’s particularly exciting to see the passion among members.

BM: There must be lots of feedback at all levels, both positive and negative. What has the trend been, lately? 

LB: Certainly HAES runs counter to what most people are taught.  But I’ve found that when people are willing to listen, there is actually is a lot of openness.  HAES just makes sense – and it matches people’s experience. Also, the evidence-base is strong, if people are willing to examine it. The trend is clearly moving towards HAES these days, though there are many with their heads firmly stuck in the sand. I get positive feedback from those who actually listen; the negative comes from those with firmly held beliefs, who aren’t open to examining the cracks in their belief system. But I’m happy to report, having been on the frontlines delivering this message, that I’ve been getting fantastic reception, among lay audiences as well as health professionals. The time is ripe. People are recognizing that the old paradigm isn’t working, and are relieved to hear about Health at Every Size and the strong evidence base.

BM: Do you have plans to write another book? Would the premise be the same?
LB: I’ve got two books in progress.  I’ve finished a rough draft of one, co-authored by dietitian Dr. Michelle Morris, called Eat Well: For your Self, For the World, which examines nutrition, from the perspective of both Health at Every Size and agricultural sustainable, and gives readers tools to make more enjoyable, sustainability and nutritious food choices. The second, co-authored by publicist Mandy Katz, is called Find Your Voice! How to Challenge Resistance and Talk Persuasively About Size Acceptance. If readers want to hear updates on the progress of these books, they can join my mailing list or follow me on social media (Twitter; Facebook).

BM: What inspired you to write HAES? Was it personal? Professional? Just filling a need? 
LB: I started this journey to save myself; food and body concerns were so painful for me. I’m happy to report that I can enjoy both now. As part of this path, I got three graduate degrees, looking at weight issues from different academic perspectives, and eventually examined this topic as a researcher. The book grew out of a research study I conducted to test the efficacy of HAES. Every week I would write up notes for the participants, helping them to understand the science behind HAES and how to implement it into their lives. And after each session, I would fill in my notes with personal stories of the research participants’ reactions to the materials, and the changes they were making. When the research showed such phenomenal results, it was clear that the information would be helpful for a much larger audience, so I turned it into a book. I am very proud to see how well received the book has been, and to hear so many reports that the book has been transformative for readers.

BM: Are you still currently teaching? Or has HAES taken over your career, for now? 
LB: Yes, I teach nutrition for college students and incorporate HAES into my teaching. I also write and speak on the topic outside of my teaching job.

BM: Lastly, Linda, show us your “BOLD!”
LB: My boldness comes out in speaking truth to power. For example, it isn’t easy to challenge Michelle Obama, who gets so much support for her childhood obesity prevention efforts, and others working for food justice concerns. Yet, while Obama and others do have many phenomenal ideas and programs, they are being implemented at a painful cost, by instilling more bias against larger people.  I’m committed to changing the national discourse to tackling disease and arguing for “good food” on their own merits, as opposed to getting rid of “the obese.”

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Odessa Cozzolino, Founder of My Body Gallery, Wants more from Women!

Odessa Cozzolino, Founder of My Body Gallery

OK, so it’s no secret that we LOVE the idea behind MyBodyGallery.com. But, you know who else is pretty awesome, herself? Odessa Cozzolino, founder and owner of My Body Gallery is! After we wrote our article about the site, we got a chance to actually sit and talk with this AMAZING and groundbreaking bold woman.

Cozzolino is all about real women, just like we are!
“When women can see other women’s real bodies and understand what 130, 150, or 180 pounds really looks like, they can start to gain a realistic appreciation for the diversity of women’s sizes and shapes, and the beauty that is totally unrelated to a number on the scale. It’s often easier to see this in others first, but my hope is that it will translate to women’s self-image as well.”
And, it’s not just about body image for Cozzolino. She feels that women are much more than what they see in the mirror. “It’s probably impossible and definitely implausible, but that’s my dream: that one day each woman will discover something that they would rather think about than how they look. Imagine.”
Bold Magazine: OK, first thing’s first. This is an incredible idea. How did you think of it?
Odessa Cozzolino: I am a photographer and after taking a lot of photographs of women who were uncomfortable with how they looked I thought “I wish women could see themselves the way others see them and not the way they think they look.” And so I decided to create the site.
BM: What is your goal for My Body Gallery? 
OC: I wanted there to be a place that would have honest representations of what real women’s bodies look like. We tend to bring a lot of baggage to the mirror (whether we think we should look like a fashion model, or want to return to how we looked before we had children, or never measured up to what our mothers told us was beautiful, or that we’re too fat, too thin, too short, too tall, etc.). We are also bombarded with images and ideas about the “ideal” woman — her size, her shape, the “magic number” of her weight. All of this leaves us in a position to have no real idea of what look like to others — and feel bad about ourselves to boot, for not looking the way we think we’re supposed to.
BM: What were your biggest challenges?
OC: The biggest challenge is definitely the technical end of it. Trying to find a website designer / builder who understood what I wanted and getting it to function properly is an ongoing challenge.
BM: How long has the site been running?
OC: The site launched in early 2010.
BM:  How much has the site grown so far?
OC: Since it’s launch the site has steadily grown, but over the last few weeks it’s kind of gone “viral” with over 4million hits in the past 7 days. Yay!
BM: Wow! What has the feedback and user involvement been like?
OC: The vast majority of the feedback has been amazing! And obviously user involvement is critical since all the photos are user uploaded.
BM: Where do you see the site going in a year? 5 years?
OC: I hope that the site will continue to grow its database so that it can be more representative and useful to more women. And then, the thing that I wonder about the most is: Imagine what we, as a gender, could accomplish if we thought about something, anything else besides how we look? Imagine. Would music be written, diseases cured, planets discovered, books written? What are we, as humans, missing out on because half of our population is constantly thinking about how they look?
BM: Tell us about yourself. Were there any other empowering ideas you had before this? What do you enjoy besides building confidence in young women?
OC: I am a photographer and I love being able to take photographs of people and show their beauty. It’s an honor.
BM: So, we know you run the site yourself. What does your day consist of? Any plans to bring on some help?
OC: I am also a mother and photographer, so my days are varied and busy. In regards to the site, I spend a lot of time answering emails and reading MyBodyStory submissions and deciding which ones to publish.
BM: Tell us a great story about your work with My Body Gallery. What is the best thing you’ve heard or seen since beginning the site?
OC: The thankful emails are the best part! Like this one:
A Facebook friend posted a link to this website with a little description of what it was about. That was yesterday. It hasn’t even been a full 24 hours and already this site has created an amazing sense of peace for me. One doesn’t realize the effect until after hitting the “Random” button over and over again, watching as body after body passes by. The beautiful truth that everyone knows but finds so hard, if not impossible, to face: Each person really is 100% unique. No two bodies are the same. Not a single one is better or worse than any other. I want to thank the creators of this project/site for helping me really realize and finally accept this truth. I’m 30 years old and have finally accomplished this seemingly impossible task for most women: Just loving the body that I’m in. I feel like I’ve had a moment of enlightenment and I’m truly grateful. I fully support what you are doing! Thanks again!”
BM: Do you have any plans to expand this beyond a website? Events? Publications? Etc?
OC: I would love to someday do a project that combines my photography with the mission of the site. What that will look like I’m still working on.
BM: We’re all about our “Bold” here at Bold Magazine. Can you show us yours?
OC: I believe that anything is possible. Anything. If you want something, or dream of something, just do it! There is power in action, in the moving forward toward your goal or dream or idea. It’s how I try to live. And how I hope to encourage those around me to live.

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My Body Gallery: What Real Women Look Like

So, there we are driving home and we hear the most AWESOME thing on the car radio. 101.9 FM News in New York gave us a little glimpse into one of the coolest websites EVER, www.mybodygallery.com.

The main premise of the site is that it’s a plug in center for women who want to see what others their shape and size look like. The whole idea is that we spend too much time examining what we think is wrong with us when looking into a mirror. Instead, we need to be focused on all of our positive features. This site allows us to look at others, so that we can see other REAL women in our weight, height, or size category. Doing so will remind us that we are not women in magazines, but real women looking in the mirror.

So, here’s how it works:

After going to the site, you choose your height, weight, pant size, shirt size, and body shape. Hit submit and view the gallery. There are women of all types there. And, they are all anonymous, no faces are shown without consent of the image provider. It’s pretty incredible!

There’s also a great “news and information” section with size charts and some background as well as an awesome section of body image stories from their users. You can also login to provide your own information This truly is a groundbreaking site! Here is some information directly from My Body Gallery.

In a world full of images of how we “should” look it can get difficult to tell how we DO look.  Our hope is to build a site where women can see what real women look like.  What we really look like.  Most women have spent so many years looking at themselves in mirrors that we can no longer see what’s really there.  The My Body Gallery project’s goal is to help women objectively see what we look like and come to some acceptance that we are all beautiful.

Submit Your Photo!

The My Body Gallery project needs real women!  They are just starting out and need your help to develop the project and build a collection of photos that will help more women see themselves more clearly.  Upload a picture of your full body in any pose.  Their photo submission process also allows you to block out part of the image to protect your identity, if you wish. Click here to begin.

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