A Guest Article from Nyemade Boiwu, That African Butterfly

Photo Credit to Ador T Photography

[Editor’s Note: In anticipation of our “Real Life of Influencers” Spring 2020 Edition, Nyemade Boiwu wrote this amazing article! If you’ve missed where you can buy our magazine, you can see it HERE!]

Influencer is a word that’s being used a lot these days. Some people hear it and instantly cringe. Others hear it and think #goals. However, at the end of the day in its most broken-down form, isn’t an influencer just someone who has influence over the actions of others? We live in a time where that we give this lofty title and so much clout to certain people because they have large followings or because they have celebrity status. While situationally overlooking the fact that we ourselves are influencers. 

How many times has someone in your everyday life said that they were inspired by something you did? Or has someone commented that they liked something you were wearing and wanted to know where you got it from? The truth is, we’re all influencers because we all have an impact on the lives of people around us. There’s a saying that goes, “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” I wholeheartedly disagree with that quote. The bones may heal but the impact of hurtful words and actions leave a lasting impact. People often don’t realize the impact their words can have on others. They think that if they’re not saying something directly to a person then there’s nothing wrong with them voicing their negative opinions. However, words spoken influence those who hear them. Think of how many times you were sitting with a parent watching tv and heard them say negative things about the body of someone on the screen. Without thinking about it they were influencing your views on body image.

The same way negative words can influence others positive words can do that same thing and sometimes be even more impactful. It’s so easy in certain situations to join on the bandwagon of complaining. Taking the time to find the silver lining of the situation can often influence others to do the same. This will help lead to a spread of positivity. It doesn’t have to be a large declaration either. People underestimate how much others watch their movements whether in person or via social media. You can be a voice of positivity just by leaving it every day as your truth. The most people trust you the more they will follow your lead. 

Just like those with the title of “Influencer” can do something to lose the trust of people around them. We can as well. Once that happens it’s hard to regain that trust in a way that lets us effectively impact their lives. This is why it’s important to be genuine and honest. Strive to always be authentically yourself because you never know when your actions, which are just everyday actions to you, may be something life changing to someone else. You don’t have to be an “Influencer” to be an influencer.